Happy fall, dreamboats. That means it’s time for pumpkin-flavored everything, existential malaise about how WINTER IS COMING and another riveting edition of quick and dirty advice. Let’s fall head over heels into fall.
I’m 22, straight, female. In the past week, several men have claimed to “know who I am” from somewhere. They’ll come up out of the blue and insist they know me, but don’t elaborate. Is this some kind of joke? It’s starting to creep me out.
Could be a few things: simple coincidence, or you have “one of those faces” that people recognize as familiar, or you resemble a popular porn star. My bet is that it’s a pickup line, however. Dudes want to start a conversation with you and don’t know how, so use the ol’ don’t-I-know-you routine to get things going. If they persist in being aggressive about it, end the conversation firmly and be on your merry way.
My brother has a girlfriend of two years. He recently cheated on her with a good friend of mine. I’m mad at my friend, but more so at my brother. Should I tell his girlfriend? She doesn’t like me much, and I don’t even know if she’ll believe me.
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No. Stay out of it. You may feel like you’re doing the noble thing, but it is almost always better to leave other people’s problems to other people and focus on your own. If that includes giving your friend a stern talking to, or your brother, feel free, but it’s not your responsibility or prerogative to tell the girlfriend about your brother’s indiscretions.
My orgasms are stronger when I masturbate than when I have sex. Is this unusual?
Nah. Sex with other people is performative and carries with it a degree of vulnerability and self-consciousness. When you’re fucking yourself, those feelings aren’t there (usually). Enjoy the uninhibited O’s.
We dated for three years. I ended it. She moved on in two weeks and is still with the new guy. How the hell did she move on so quickly?
Eh, “moving on” and “jumping into a new relationship” aren’t the same thing. Who knows how she’s really feeling? Either way, do yourself a solid and stop inquiring about/snooping on her love life. You’ll be better for it and better able to “move on” yourself.
Should I get back with my ex?
No, but feel free to bang them one last time if it gives you a sense of closure.
I fell in love with my friend’s partner. We haven’t done anything physical, but the emotional intensity is stifling. What should I do?
Enjoy the tension. But don’t delude yourself into thinking it’s a good idea to pursue your friend’s partner. (It’s usually not.)
Anna Pulley is a RedEye contributor. Want to ask Anna an anonymous question about love, sex or dating? Email your quandary to [email protected].