I’m 22, female, and just caught my boyfriend, 23, on Tinder. He didn’t have an account for very long, but he was definitely talking to girls and got a few phone numbers. I confronted him, and he seems genuinely sorry. He insists it was a “joke,” but WTF does that even mean? I don’t know how to handle this situation. I care about him, but am I a fool for staying?—Joke’s On Me
Dear JOM,
Your boyfriend scouting girls, messaging them and collecting phone numbers = not a joke.
Here’s an actual joke, from Conan O’Brien: “Tinder launched a premium service with something called ‘unlimited liking capability.’ Until now, the only other product that gave you ‘unlimited liking capability’ was beer.”
If your boyfriend’s decision to join a hookup app behind your back was, in fact, a hilarious aside, why wouldn’t he have been upfront about it? Also, I agree with you: I’m not sure what the “joke” is supposed to be. Haha, I almost cheated on you but got caught? ZOMG. Get this man a YouTube show and his own hashtag #SoFunnyIPoopedMyself.
Either way, he joined a dating site without telling you, used it and probably would have taken it further had you not rained on his parade.
Signs point to: Dump.
I don’t know how long you’ve been together or if everything else is going swimmingly, but trusting someone is a pretty necessary trait to make a relationship work. He broke that trust. It’s up to you if you want to give him another shot, but I imagine you’re going to have a tough time believing that he’ll stay faithful to you after such a flagrant and dumb move on his part.
Another joke, the funniest joke you’ve ever heard. You’ll need to change your pants afterward.
Where does the Lone Ranger take his trash? *Lone Ranger theme song plays* to the dump, to the dump, to the dump, dump, dump.
#SoFunnyIPoopedMyself
Should I date my ex for the second time?—It Takes Two
Dear ITT,
Have you been drinking rosé alone and watching “Bachelor in Paradise” again? Even if you haven’t, don’t date your ex again. I know it’s tempting. He/she is available and familiar, and you already know her/his cute-gross habits! But the reasons you weren’t compatible as dating partners have not gone away. Reflect on them and don’t do anything hasty.
Anna Pulley is a RedEye contributor. Got a question of your own? Email [email protected]. Or let her send you overly personal emails here.
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