Q. My wife is bisexual and we have been searching for another bisexual female to have a long-term relationship but aren’t having any luck. Can you provide any advice on how we can go about finding this type of person and on how to approach someone we are attracted to? This is important to us and we really need your help.
A. While I find it admirable that you are so concerned about your wife’s sexuality that you’re actively trying to help her find a female partner, in my opinion if you are successful in your search the result will probably spell trouble for your marriage.
What often happens in cases like this is that once your wife starts living a bisexual lifestyle, she may find that she actually prefers making love to the female you bring home, and pffft, suddenly you are out of the picture. Perhaps it is inevitable that she will one day adopt a lesbian lifestyle, but if you actively help to bring this about, in the end it is going to be even more difficult for you.